Can I be honest? Is this a safe space? Good, because I have a confession to make… I regularly ghost everyone in my life.

Now before I get written off, let me explain. I love yapping and keeping in contact but texting requires so much effort for me and there’s so many people now a days who are scared of a phone call.

When I’m texting I feel like I’ve trapped myself by societies expectations of phone etiquette.

All I can think is;

Make sure there’s no typos… we live in an era of auto-correct.

Reactions are not a response and neither are GIF’s… come on use your words.

Show interest and excitement but not too many emojis… but if you’re going to use emojis make sure to use the right ones because there’s always a hidden meaning.

No one wants to read paragraphs… but spamming feels excessive.

Don’t take too long to respond… but don’t just sit there staring at the screen.

It can all be a bit overwhelming and with each ding of my phone I am oftentimes left exhausted, bored, anxious, or wishing I had just picked up the phone and called.

Luckily there’s a small group of lovely individuals who have been able to meet me where I’m at. They all lead busy lives as well so whenever we have the time, a quick, and sometimes not so quick call, hits the spot.

One day I would love to overthrow this oppressive force and connect with the rest of the world who all seem to be so comfortable texting. But for now, I’ve got so many other things I would rather focus on, and with a community that is willing to meet me where I’m at, I have happily accepted that I am a ghoster and, in a sense, freed myself in the process.